Many of us are being bombarded with advertisements and articles offering suggestions for Mother’s Day gifts. One article said, “Don’t give her a robotic vacuum or an air fryer. In fact, stay away from anything kitchen related.” Suggested alternates included a cozy throw, a keepsake box, elegant photo frames, or jewelry. Maybe I am less domestic than other women, but I think most busy mothers of young children would fall to their knees with gratitude over a robotic vacuum, while a keepsake box would mean one more thing to gather dust. A throw that doesn’t complement current décor or colors will be stored in the linen closet, perhaps indefinitely.
During my years as a garden center employee, I saw well-meaning husbands and kids purchase hanging baskets or special houseplants for Mom. I knew that in a few weeks many of those Petunia baskets would be quietly discarded, and the Black-Eyed Susie vines that looked so great when they left the sales floor would become unattractive, stringy things unless pruned. Please, consider the recipient’s available time and gardening style before making a selection. Hanging baskets will need water every day in the heat of summer. On the surface, watering sounds like a minor demand. But combine that daily watering chore with childcare needs, shopping, laundry, meal preparation and housecleaning, and resentment can easily overtake appreciation, no matter what she said when presented with a plant she did not select. If she has never shown any desire to tend plants, either indoors or out, respect that inclination and look for a non-gardening gift. If the person you are honoring is a gardener, pay attention to what she grows every year and shop with purpose. A woman with a vegetable garden would appreciate a healthy tomato plant or a specialty pepper. Those who enjoy a mojito at the end of the day might appreciate a container of mint. Someone who loves hot colors would enjoy that fire-engine red Geranium.
Gardeners who eschew houseplants are secretly gritting their teeth when presented with a fiddle-leaf fig, a cyclamen, or an orchid. By gifting a plant with exacting needs, you force the recipient to seek a special environment to accommodate a prima dona. As someone who has killed an amazing number of orchids, violets, and peace lilies, I can attest to the fact that not all successful outside gardeners are good inside gardeners. If she is proud of her collection of orchids or African violets, feel free to add another to her collection. Don’t hesitate to ask what type of plant would be especially appreciated. Pay careful attention to the response – not all Hydrangeas or Camellias have the same requirements.
Please consider non-plant presents like garden gloves, a high-quality pair of hand pruners, a kneeling pad, or high-quality sunscreen. Eyebrows were raised when a friend of ours gave us a large bag of Black Kow composted manure as a wedding present more than three decades ago, but this friend understood our shared gardening hobby.
For years, my perfect husband gave me lovely jewelry at every occasion. I loved it. BUT, the year he gave me a gas-powered, rear-tined rototiller for Valentine’s Day, I almost swooned with excitement. That was a turning point in our marriage. Future presents included things like tractors, dump trailer, and a motorized utility vehicle with an electric tilting bed. I confess, a Dramm watering wand or a quality garden hose mean more to me than just about any plant from a garden center.